Q: My boyfriend and I just got in a fight last night, and it ended on a bad note. I feel horrible about it. How can I apologize to him and let him know I am really sorry?
A: I’m sorry. Fighting with your boyfriend can be the worst. My first piece of advice is that if you fought about something very important to you, do not throw away your beliefs just to make up. If it is something you can’t agree on, tell him, “I respect your opinion, but you need to respect mine also. We don’t have to agree, but we should honor the other person’s feelings.” My full advice would be that when you both calm down, first make plans to go out for lunch or coffee, preferably in a public place where you know you will not be inclined to yell. Then, address the issue, state your opinion, and explain how you feel, opening with something like “I hate how we left things. I really want to work this out.” Then let him tell you his side and listen. No, really. Listen. Pay attention to what he says. Talk and try to find an agreement. After you talk and hopefully resolve your issues, change the subject and have fun, enjoying your time together.