What TV Has Taught Me About Love

I watch a lot of television — like a lot. I watch to the extent that sometimes I even think it may have a negative impact on my life, but other times I receive so many life-changing lessons that my whole life flips upside down. You know how sometimes people say that fictional characters can’t really be inspirational? That nowadays the stories are shallow and empty, that everything is fake, and that everything is about quantity and not quality? Well, to those people I say:

“Follow me, reader! Who told you that there is no true, faithful, eternal love in this world! May the liar’s vile tongue be cut out! Follow me, my reader, and me alone, and I will show you such a love!” — Mikhail Bulgakov, The Master and Margarita

So, yes. I would say that sometimes this true, faithful, eternal love can be found in fiction, in a book, or in a TV series. The kind of love which you almost envy, which you secretly wish for yourself. So what did I learn on my TV series journey of love? I learned that there is no fear in love. In love there is no “impossible.” 

One of my absolute favorite couples on TV is Amy Pond and Rory Williams (or just simply “The Ponds”) from Doctor Who. They showed me what it means to love so much that you would wait forever and even longer for YOUR person — that nothing can get in your way once you’ve realized that this particular person is your other half. You may quarrel, and occasionally you may think that you need more excitement, but the end result is: together or not at all. My dear Germies, sometimes you need to fight for your love. You will experience disappointment, you will think that your situation is completely and utterly hopeless. But according to Stephen Hawkings in The Theory of Everything, “While there’s life, there is hope.” In the end you will know. You will feel in every little part of you that you were right and that it was worth it.

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Image via vk media.

Unfortunately, a part of our human nature is to make mistakes, to think that we are right or to be totally unsure about the things we’re doing, to think that love is simply an emotion. The trick is to realize that love is so much more than an emotion. It’s a promise, and to stick to that promise is one of the hardest things out there. But what is it you’re promising exactly? You’re promising that when your emotional love is not so strong anymore, when the other person annoys you, and when a crisis happens, you still stay. You will stay true to yourself, to your partner, to your promise. Emotions can fade, and memory can fail, but love will live because there is nothing stronger than a promise to love another.

Love is not something that happens to you whether you like it or not. Love is quite a difficult decision. Love takes courage — courage to show your true self and courage to accept the other person, despite all of his or her flaws. Love means being vulnerable yet not being too afraid of it. Love means you choose. You choose to invite someone into your life. Love means being aware of the fact that you’re not alone and that the heart of another is in your heart. Love means never questioning the past and just being hopeful about the future. And in the end? In every case, #LoveWins.

 

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